“Get it together” my colleague said to me. “Wipe your eyes and pretend nothing happened. You know you shouldn’t be upset at work.” Although I do not recall the situation, the message from my coworker, over 25 years ago, was memorable and clear. Like a good soldier I sucked it up and continued to bury my emotions — for many years to follow.
For as long as I can remember I was told, when you go to work leave your emotions at home. It was not a particular class that I took, a policy or formal learning. It was implied.